A couple days ago, since my mom has started to get worse, I decided to seek more help. After getting calls from local businesses, the police, and my moms landlord, all claiming that she is accusing her, it is time to take another approach. Until now, I've been under the impression that the only way to get her help, since she refuses to accept anything for herself and will not allow me to help her, was for her to hurt herself or someone else. Needless to say I've been dreading what it would take for her two get real help in a long term setting, as I know she needs.
But I've since found out that there is one final option to make this happen which does not require her to make a suicide attempt. But it does require me to take guardianship of her, so that I can help make better decisions for her that she is unable to make for herself. All of the paperwork is filled out and I will meet with a local entity this week to finalize it and set the court date. She is not happy and has said that she will refuse to talk to me..forever if I proceed with this process. at this point, that's a risk I'm willing to take. The risk of doing nothing is far greater.
Meanwhile I felt blindsided today when I got the call from the hospital in thetown where my dad lives. He has frequent minor setbacks but it has had nothing major happened in at least 18 years, if not 20 or more. But today, because of medication changes, he has had to go to treatment in a mental health facility. I don't know what to think about this in the midst of everything else happening. But I can say that I am glad and proud that he takes the initiative on his own to seek the help that he needs when he realizes he needs it. I only wish my mom could do the same.
Although I know they both need me now, I selfishly want to crawl in a hole and not be myself. Just to come out of that hole a different person with the same people in my life, but with different circumstances. I suppose when you change some things you inevitably change others as well, and you can't control what those other changes might be.
So you play the hand you're dealt and hope for the best and just learn to take better care of yourself so that you can be there for those who need you.
And quite possibly get some therapy of your own.
But I've since found out that there is one final option to make this happen which does not require her to make a suicide attempt. But it does require me to take guardianship of her, so that I can help make better decisions for her that she is unable to make for herself. All of the paperwork is filled out and I will meet with a local entity this week to finalize it and set the court date. She is not happy and has said that she will refuse to talk to me..forever if I proceed with this process. at this point, that's a risk I'm willing to take. The risk of doing nothing is far greater.
Meanwhile I felt blindsided today when I got the call from the hospital in thetown where my dad lives. He has frequent minor setbacks but it has had nothing major happened in at least 18 years, if not 20 or more. But today, because of medication changes, he has had to go to treatment in a mental health facility. I don't know what to think about this in the midst of everything else happening. But I can say that I am glad and proud that he takes the initiative on his own to seek the help that he needs when he realizes he needs it. I only wish my mom could do the same.
Although I know they both need me now, I selfishly want to crawl in a hole and not be myself. Just to come out of that hole a different person with the same people in my life, but with different circumstances. I suppose when you change some things you inevitably change others as well, and you can't control what those other changes might be.
So you play the hand you're dealt and hope for the best and just learn to take better care of yourself so that you can be there for those who need you.
And quite possibly get some therapy of your own.
